Blaming you for everything, making you feel guilty, accusing you of cheating, controlling you, telling you what to wear, when to speak, checking your phone, email, Facebook, texts, using the past or other confidences against you, threatening to use mental health, substance abuse, immigration, legal or other issues against you. . .

Lying, denying things you know are true, crazy-making, gas-lighting, hiding your things, stealing your belongings, Jekyll and Hyde behavior, sabotaging your work, school, test or competition, using manipulation, destroying your self-esteem and self-worth, ignoring you, being nice or abusive at unpredictable times. . .

Isolating you from friends and family, moving the family away from your support system, trying to turn your children, friends, relatives or neighbors against you, not allowing you to go out with friends, insisting you only spend time with the abuser. . .

Forcing you to have sex when you don’t want to, manipulating you into having sex in exchange for necessities such as housing, money, child support, etc., forcing sexual acts you are uncomfortable with, comparing your sexual behavior to others, criticizing your body, touching you in ways you are not comfortable with, using sexual language you don’t like, cheating on you and blaming you for it. . .

Controlling all of the finances and accounts, monitoring your spending, not allowing you to work or forcing you to work, limiting your access to money, sabotaging your work by making you late, constant calls or turning coworkers against you, limiting your access to transportation, taking funds that belong to you, destroying your credit. . .